Papa was a dedicated family man who loved and respected his wife deeply; my mom was the envy of other women in Benakuma Esimbi. I remember, in 1981, as a young child, some people came to buy coffee from Papa while Mama had traveled to Bamenda. He refused to sell, stating that he could only do so when Mama was back.

Papa loved his children and was always there when they needed him. As one of the most stubborn kids in the family, I never wanted to go to school, but Papa negotiated with the head teacher to ensure that four strong class-seven boys would pick me up, take me to school, and keep me there so I could be educated. His love didn't stop there; Papa even took up work as a night watchman for the Catholic Church in Benakuma to ensure that I could continue my schooling at Sacred Heart College. I remember he only truly rested when I came back to Benakuma for the holidays. As if that was not enough, when I finished university, he encouraged me to find a place of my own and even sold one of his properties in Benakuma to help me start building my first house in Buea.

Papa was a man of peace. I remember being threatened with machetes on our way to one of his largest orchards in Benakuma, which was valued at millions. Instead of retaliating, Papa chose to let it go, saying he would rather focus on his children than get entangled in endless court battles.

Papa was also a man of wisdom. He and Mama decided against upgrading their home in Bafut until I was married. I had to introduce my girlfriend, now my wife, before any upgrades could be done to their home in Nsoh Bafut.

While in the US, Papa spent most of his time with me, teaching me through his actions to be kind, caring, and generous. I remember him asking me to buy clothes for all the kids who visited him. If I delayed, he would ask repeatedly until I fulfilled his wish. I recall him giving money to my kids and other children who visited, saying it was for school fees and blessings to help them succeed.

Papa, you shaped my life and that of my children daily through your actions. Your smile, laughter, and jokes filled our home with warmth. Seeing so many people visiting these past weeks shows just how loved you were and how deeply you will be missed.

Paul Cheniwi

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Pa John, It’s hard to believe we are here to celebrate your life—a life that touched so many of us in ways we will never forget. You were an embodiment of strength, a source of laughter, wisdom, and a wellspring of comfort. You had a way of turning pain into a joke or a witty remark just when we felt down, and your laughter was infectious. We will miss your sense of humor, the little jokes you made, and the light teasing that made even the toughest days a little easier to bear. I was honored to share the same birthday as you.

Jesse, Joy, Janelle, and Joey will miss the stories you told, the lessons you taught, and, of course, the way you made them laugh. They were so lucky to have had you in their lives for these past years. You set an example for them of what it means to be loving, strong, and full of joy.

Your life was a model of integrity and kindness. We will remember you with love, gratitude, and laughter. Thank you, "American Boy," for all the years you gave us—for your love, your wisdom, your jokes, and your steady presence. You were, and always will be, deeply cherished. The memories we shared will keep you in our hearts forever. We love you and will miss you dearly.

"Fred, I find myself constantly looking back at the last message you sent, hoping for another one. You had so much ahead of you and so many plans yet to fulfill. While we may never fully understand why, we take comfort in knowing you’re in a better place now. Until we meet again, Bro."

Alvina and Kids (Jesse, Joy, Janelle & Joey)

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Dear Fred, I lastly saw you when you were a student. I knew you had a bright future, and you have proved it. Now the Lord has taken you by His side where you have no more worries. Intercede for your parents, kids, wife, and family. Fare yee well to glory land.

Auntie Prisca Suh

WHAT MAKES US STRONG – TRIBUTE TO PA MULEH JOHN CHE-NIWI

I am pleased to drop these few words in honor of my dad, as he moves to rest on His Bosom. As I thought of writing, many things came to mind, from the fatherly care, advice, stories and memories he left behind. Crowded with so much, I decided not to write at all, because I didn’t even know where to begin. However, one thing came to mind, which is one of those educative folk tales, analogies, stories, and mentoring lessons Pa gave my siblings and I when we were kids. He made this analogy several times, until it stayed in my memory for too long and many times. This has always been my inspiration, (especially in times of dare need) and I see this within the entire family. Sometimes, I imagine it as Christ’s “sermon on the mount”. However, I must confess that I never understood this until I grew older and became a parent myself. I would like to leave this analogy here below for your read and inspiration thereof.

“As we live, I would like us to imitate the life of the cattle family. I am the bull; your mother is the cow and all of you my children are the calf. The cow usually identifies the greener pastures, the bull takes the lead to navigate the way, while the calf moves along, imitating what they do. The cattle usually move in a flock and are exposed to equal opportunities in the pasture. Unlike the hen, the cow would never provide pasture for the calf, neither would you find the bull, nor the calf provide for one another. The herd of cattle simply move along in a flock. Nevertheless, realize that time and again, they turn to look back or forth, ensuring that all are together, as they try to protect one another from an encroaching enemy. As they look around, they also want to be sure that each one of them is taking his/her fare share in the pasture.

From this analogy and as a family, know that neither I nor your mother will provide for any of you, nor should anyone stay and rely on someone else for his needs. However, time and again, we must look back and forth to check on one another to be sure that everyone is healthy, strong and well protected in the field. By so doing, we shall all live well and grow from strength to strength”. The only reaction I have here to conclude this analogy is that many times when I have conversation with my dad, he usually asked, “I hope you are strong and eating your pasture in good health of mind and body”. To you the reader, I prefer to withhold any further comments and not to interpret the above analogy, so everyone can digest and infer in his or her own way. BUT please try to see how you and your family could be inspired by this.

I would like to end with these few impressions of Pa Muleh John Che niwi. Pa was a “jack and master of all”. “Not quite literate, yet well educated. Not so rich yet had in abundance, not a priest, yet so religious, so spiritual, yet not mystical, born and bred in a manger, yet lived and died in a castle”.

Adieu Pa Muleh John Cheniwi

Joseph Fuh Che

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Dear Pa john as we fondly called you. Thank you for being a caring father and a loving Patriarch for the entire family. It was always fun being around you. You never took things too seriously and always had a laugh about struggles. You were always the willing wise counsellor. You are incredibly missed. Your love and guidance will forever be etched in our Hearts.

Ngum Akongnwi Judith.

Ladies and gentlemen, today we come together to honor the life and legacy of my father, John Che Muleh—a man who lived by a set of unwavering core values that profoundly impacted everyone who knew him. While his passing has left an irreplaceable void, I find comfort in the time we shared, especially in his final moments, where I was privileged to be by his side.

A Man of Integrity and Dedication: My father was more than just a presence in my life; he was my anchor, mentor, and role model. He led by example, demonstrating the value of hard work and the importance of integrity. His dedication to everything he undertook whether at work, at home, or within our community was an inspiration to all. My dad didn’t just preach values; he embodied them, showing me what it means to live a life of purpose and honesty.

A Heart Overflowing with Compassion: His kindness was boundless, extending beyond family to embrace friends, neighbors, and even strangers. Our home became a sanctuary for those in need, where he welcomed everyone with warmth and open arms. His compassion taught me the true meaning of generosity—of giving without expectation and always finding ways to bring comfort and joy to others.

A Teacher and Guide: Through countless stories and shared moments, my father instilled in me a love for life and learning. His wisdom shaped my perspective, his humor lightened my heart, and his unwavering support gave me the courage to face any challenge. Even in difficult times, he demonstrated resilience and strength, showing me that with faith and determination, we can endure anything.

Memories to Cherish, Lessons to Uphold: The memories of his laughter, his advice, and the quiet moments we shared will forever remain in my heart. Today, as we celebrate his life, let us also reflect on the values he held dear—integrity, compassion, dedication, and love. These values are his legacy, gifts that he left behind to guide us all.

An Inspiring Legacy: Though he is no longer with us, his spirit will live on, inspiring us to live with kindness, courage, and purpose. Thank you for being here to honor my father’s legacy. Your support is a testament to the incredible man he was and the impact he made on so many lives.

Dad, may your soul and those of the faithful departed—Mama Sirri Odilia, Josephine Nchang, Philip Black, and Sister Joan—rest in perfect peace.

Esther Lum

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"On Oct 10th,I had a conversation with you. I pleaded with you to wait till I get married before going. I thought you didn't hear...but you did. All I can say is thank you for waiting. Your presence was a blessing. It's unfortunate that we're mourning right after celebrating but a win is a win."

Afanwi Fubienka(Grand Daughter)

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Grandpa taught me to approach life with courage and honesty. He was a steady presence, a man who believed that true character was shown not in words but in actions. He was always there for family, friends, and anyone in need, never asking for anything in return. He loved speaking about his life experiences, and his stories had a magic to them, drawing you in so deeply that you felt like you’d lived the experience right alongside him. Though his time with us has ended, his wisdom and influence will live on forever.

Abongwi Fubienka

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Tribute to Pa John Chenwi , Alias John Bafut

Today, we gather to celebrate the extraordinary life of Pa John Chenwi, a remarkable father-in-law, mentor, and friend. His passing at 99 leaves a profound void, but his legacy shines ever brighter in our hearts.

A Cherished Father-in-Law: Pa John was more than a father-in-law; he was a guiding light, confidant, and unwavering source of strength. His love, wisdom, and support enriched our lives in ways words cannot fully express.

A Life of Unwavering Joy: Pa’s most inspiring quality was his steadfast commitment to joy. No matter the challenges he faced, Pa John never allowed anything to dim his spirit. He radiated a contagious positivity, encouraging everyone around him to embrace life with happiness and gratitude.

Wisdom and Guidance: Pa John’s counsel and wealth of experience guided us through life’s trials with courage and resilience. His unwavering support helped shape our values, choices, and the people we’ve become. A Devoted Family Man: As a loving husband, father, and grandfather, Pa John's love knew no bounds. His warmth, kindness, and generosity created countless cherished memories that we will hold close forever.

A Lasting Impact on the Community: Pa John’s contributions to our community will never fade. His leadership, philanthropy, and dedication to positive change will continue to inspire those who knew him and even those who didn’t.

Lessons from His Life: From Pa John's example, we’ve learned invaluable lessons:

Joy is a choice.

Love conquers all.

Resilience defines strength.

Family is everything.

Grateful Memories: We cherish:

Moments filled with laughter.

Conversations rich with wisdom.

The gift of his unconditional love.

A Legacy That Lives On Pa John, your love, wisdom, and impact will forever reside in our hearts. Your memory inspires us to live with the kindness, compassion, and boundless joy that you embodied. May you and Neba Fred Fuh your grandson, Mami John Bafut, and the rest of the departed rest in peace in the lord.

Your Son in law, Nteuhndah Julius Fubienka

Dear Papa, the pain I feel in my heart is so much that I don't know if it will ever go away. I wish I could visit heaven for just a day so you will hold me and tell me “It’s all going to be ok". I know you are in a better place where you are at peace and can still watch over us. Although the doors between our worlds are closed, you're always with us. Greet mami and the others for me.

Your daughter Mado

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Pa John aka Guy! I can recall your funny laughter. 

You died with all 32 teeth in your mouth w .What a strong man! Dear Pa John America, for the few years we've lived together, I have seen the Father figure in you. It pleased me to take care of you and I enjoyed every joke you made. I will always hear your voice saying, "Big Mami " do this or do that. I 'm happy to have been part of your last days on earth. Travel safe, Papa, and be with your Redeemer. In our hearts forever.

Fred, Big Bro..always too cautious about everything but death finally snatched you from me.

I will miss you everyday of my life brother

Ngwa Afanwi Neba

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Big pa, God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be. So he put his arms around you and said "come to me" and with tears in our eyes we saw you fade away. Although we loved you dearly, we couldn't make you stay. I miss the times we will visit you for holidays in Benakuma and you made us beautiful caps. When I cause trouble at home I will just run to Bafut because you will always support me. We pray that God will give us strength to carry on. Greet everyone for me. Your great grand kids Miguel, Ariel and Giovanni. We will forever grateful for your presence.Your stories, laughter, and unconditional love have filled our hearts with joy. We cherish every moment spent with you. Rest well Pa John.

Your grand daughter Asoh